We all have great power and potential within us. However, many people decide to take the easy route and stay where they are or take the path of least resistance. This is primarily due to how we think/view our situation. If someone is depressed and thinks that tomorrow will not be any better than today, then that is their reality. If someone is overweight and thinks that they can’t lose the extra weight, then that is their reality. Now, what must be done to change your reality is to change your mindset. You must start to change from within before your life and surroundings can change too. In this blog, I want to talk about those negative thoughts that many of us have within ourselves and how to overcome them. The three areas that I will be working on today will be depression/happiness, healthy living, and career advancement.

The first area I will be talking about is depression. Depression is something that is very serious and can be the heaviest weight a person will ever have to carry with them. A person who is depressed is more than just sad. This person is overwhelmed with negative emotions and feelings that are not easy for them to shake off. You cannot tell a depressed person just to be happy and smile; that does not work. What needs to happen is a slow crawl into something better. They have to work from within and start to repair what is broken. The way I help these types of clients is that I use a method I create called The Seed Method. I have found this method to be helpful in helping people with depression and past trauma.

I created this method because I believe that a person is strong enough to change any situation they are in. If someone is sad/mad, then it is up to them in order to change that feeling. Perhaps they want to feel that way for a short time, and that is fine. However, the people who want to seek lasting change need a way to work their way through the issues they have from within. That is why I use the seed method to give them a fighting chance when everything around them seems to be negative and poisonous. The way this method is done is through the planting of an idea/thought/belief(seed) in their mind. I tell them that the seed will grow with positive energy. Once they understand that, then the healing can begin. I will go into detail on the whole seed method next week, but for now, understand that this method is a tool that helps divert negative energy into positive energy slowly.

Working on our emotional state is just as important as making sure we have food and water each day. If you have never been truly hungry in your life, then you are blessed, but that is not the reality for everyone. Some people do not know where their next meal is coming from, but they continue. They do what they can do today to create a better tomorrow for themselves. Many of these people do not wallow in their despair. These people learn to do the best they can, and that is what we must do. We must look at ourselves as a person who can overcome any obstacle. We have to look within ourselves to summon up the power needed for us true and lasting change. What you seek in life is also waiting for you to find it. That is happiness for many people.

Happiness is one of those things that is completely up to you. Happiness is not a location or a timestamp. The same thing that is stopping you from being amazing is the same thing that is stopping you from being happy. That thing is yourself. We can be our own worst enemy and stop all the good things from coming into our life. You might have a belief that good things are not supposed to happen to you, but you should start to throw out those negative thoughts and believe in the good. Good things are supposed to happen to you! You already have everything within you right now to make that a reality. You can rid yourself of all the emotions that don’t serve you and instead fill yourself up with emotions that you long for. That is what working from within can do for you. Take the time out to ignore the world and look at the universe that is you.

The next area that people seek to modify is their eating habits or physical appearance. There is a certain truth that you should love the skin you are in, but can this body fuel your ambitions as it is right now? It is a proven fact that people who work out and live a more healthy lifestyle tend to have more energy. That means if you want to make some serious progress in your life, you have to look from within and summon the energy needed for your journey. Each day you have to take a look at yourself and see where you can make improvements. Perhaps you gained some extra weight from working at home and now want to lose it and transform your body into the one you envision. This is possible, but it will require you to dedicate yourself to achieving that goal. The clients I work with either have no clue how to get where they want to be or just want someone to hold them accountable. I find that reminding them that they have everything already inside them to achieve their goals is a great motivator for them.

Another unhealthy habit that I help people in the area of health and fitness is procrastination/putting off. This group of people will procrastinate or seek immediate gratification but always to no unveil. You might be able to recall a time when someone told you that for New Year, they would get in shape. Well, they start off strong but then lose interest/motivation. That is because they do not get immediate gratification from working out. It is something that takes time. Choosing to live a more healthy lifestyle starts with the process of creating habits that are more beneficial to your future self than they are to who you are now. The main thing to understand here is you cannot place your happiness on when you are at your ideal weight or beach body ready. Instead, you should measure your progress by how you feel each day. You have to live in the now and work from within to create the reality you want to have.

The third area that people seek to make a difference in is their careers and finances. This is something that is well within your reach. For this area, you must learn to give everything and then give more. You have to work through the pain and challenging moments to understand that the work you are doing now will pay off tomorrow. Looking from within, you can see everything that is missing or getting in your way. Perhaps you are not excited to be in the place you are, and you want a change. Perhaps your boss is not a good leader, and you feel stuck. Whatever your reason is for progressing your career/lifestyle, you must remember that you have what it takes to be successful.

There is no shortage or limitation on being successful. You can achieve great things in your life, but it requires you to take the actions needed to reach the life you envision. The problem I see for many who demand more out of their life is that they get blinded by all that life is. They get blinded by what others have and what they lack. They worry about the skills they are not good at instead of the skills they excel in. The list can go on, but the point of the matter is to use what you have right now. Over the years, you have been acquiring skills and knowledge that can be helpful to any future growth you seek. In this area, you not have to be afraid to fail and start from scratch again and again. You cannot be afraid of falling if you want to fly. Those thoughts will be anchors on your wings to success. Be sure to let the wind beneath your wings be from the effort, passion, and certainty that is you.

Living the life that many people dream of does not have to be a fairytale for you. You get what you give in this world, so if you can learn to give 100% in the work you do each and every day, then you will set yourself up for great progress. Learning to look within and understanding that you have everything to be happy, in shape, and successful is the starting point for the rest of your life. I think it is important to understand your current situation, but do not let that situation define you. Sometimes cleaning up and arranging your thoughts can do great things for you. Be sure to take the time out to understand how amazing, different, and unique you truly are. At that point, you will notice that the work you started from within was all you needed to lead you to your most desired life.

Until then,

Michael Rearden

Founder of Reven Concepts