Developing yourself should be something that stays on your mind. Currently, in these “unknown times,” I am sure you have many other worries taking up space in your mind. Perhaps you are without a job, and you do not know how you are going to pay your rent or feed your family for the week. Maybe you are concerned about being infected by a virus and falling ill. No matter what you have on your mind right now, you have to ask if it benefits you. Does staying in the house benefit you? Does being afraid of death limit your ambitions and progress each day? Well, I have news for you. The quarantine is not over, so there is plenty of time for you to focus on the most important person, you.

The most important person in your life should be you. This is not a selfish ideal, though it may seem like that at first. I learned this from another coach and the process of filling your cup first. Doing that allows you to have a cup that is overflowing, and everyone who wants it from you can have it without taking anything from you. You can have a life of fulfillment and help many people in your life. The project is about learning to take a day/week/month/year for you. For you to grow and be more so that you can help all those you want to without sacrificing who you are and where you could be

Last year I read a book called Leader’s Eat Last. In this book, I learned what made an effective leader and how certain actions a leader did could help to motivate their team or kill it. The book is a must-read for anyone in a leadership role. Now, if you are this leader, you are in a place where sacrifice and graciousness are the traits needed for progress in your company. This is why I want you not to think of yourself alone when working in a group. In that type of team setting, there is equality that unites everyone toward a common goal. What you work on as a team should of every one part of it. There are some places where selfishness does not belong, and that is the workplace and relationships.

Taking a look at yourself in a relationship is similar to the team aspect in the workplace. That means you and your partner have a common interest in mind. That could be living together happily or raising a family together. We can all agree that relationships are not easy. A relationship requires constant work and effort. There might even be days when you are willing to give it all up because you feel the inclination to be free. Perhaps you do not feel happy or satisfied in your relationship, and you want to work on yourself (“It is not you, it’s me”). If you have heard this saying before then, you are aware that it is an accumulation of the other person’s feelings of unhappiness.

When working on yourself, it is paramount that you are aware that you are in charge of what you allow in your life. You are the person who can make you the happiest. You are the person who can make immense strides in your career development. At the start and end of the day, you were the primary factor in all that is, can, and will happen to you. We sometimes let life take control, and things get out of hand fast. You might blame it on luck or circumstance, but when life gives you a challenge, it is up to you to rise to that challenge. That is why “project you” is so important because you are the person who gets the last say.

When you work on yourself, a few things start to happen in your life. If you are continually making yourself better each day, then your growth will have an inherent effect on the world. This happens because when you have something to give/share with the world, then everyone can benefit. Knowing what you have to offer can help you determine what you should keep in your life. Both physically and mentally. You can be an example for others to follow by committing to being the best version of yourself today. I think this type of positive mentorship was lost over the years, and it is up to us to rekindle the image of what a man or woman truly is, and that is the greatest they can be each day. We are all unique in our own ways, and that means we all have something to offer to the world.

Understanding that there is only one you in the world can help to motivate you to work on yourself each day. There is only one you, and there will not be anyone who will be exactly like you. They might come close to how they look, talk, and act, but they will not be you. What makes you so unique is that there will always just be one of you. You have the ability to enhance yourself each day, and it starts with you. You are able to work on yourself and be the change you want for this world.  Making sure that you are taken care of is something that you may have to relearn. It is important to stop letting people/time rule over us because we were meant to govern our own bodies. Our actions belong to us. There is no reason to live in a daydream and wish/hope for better days. You have to be those better days right now.

Looking ahead, we can see how working on yourself can impact the rest of your life. Working on being the best version of yourself each day will guarantee many things. Things like career, relationship, and personal growth. The growth we dream of and wish could be ours is within our reach. The only thing we have to do is reach out and grab it. We have to divert our energy inward instead of outward. We need to remember to love ourselves the same as we do other people. I think doing that alone will help you to transform into someone better. Someone who is valued, cared for, and loved is one of the luckiest people in the world. So instead of having someone fill that role, I want you to learn to be everything you need. You must be the energy and motivation needed to make yourself the best you.

Until then,

Michael Rearden

Founder of Reven Concepts