Love is one of those things that we take for granted. It seems like a plentiful and renewable resource, but it is something that can be depleted. Just like fuel, which we burn to stay warm and run our machines, love burns in the same way. In this blog, I want to share with you the concept and mindset of how wonders love is fleeting, and it is up to us to make it renewable.

Love is very similar to your emotional bank account; I hope it is full. There is a concept of an emotional bank account that states you can either make a withdrawal or a deposit into this account. Some examples of a deposit would be giving someone help, making sure they are settled in, and doing them a favor. A withdrawal will look like an argument, lying, or demanding something from another person. There has to be a fine balance in the amount of love you put into your account. Like banks, there are fees and repercussions for letting the account go negative.

In conjunction with understanding the emotional bank account, you have to understand that the love you give out can create interest. This is similar to compounding in money terms. Compounding refers to how your money grows, and due to time and the increasing amount of deposits, your money compounds to be more than if you just saved alone. This is how our love grows and becomes richer each day.

In order to get your love into a place where it can grow and be rich, you have to understand love sacrifice and commitment. I wrote a blog about commitment already, but in a nutshell, it means you must be 100% in. You have to make sure that what you start, you finish. Your reason has to be greater than an excuse or obstacle that may get in your way. Selfless love just doesn’t die overnight.

Also, make sure you “water” (take care of) the tree of love if you want it to grow and live. Often times we forget to water our love tree, and it dies. Whether you blame the other person or just say something nonchalant like, “it wasn’t meant to be,” or “we just fell out of love,” think about what really happened. Maybe someone cheated or was terrible with money. Perhaps you didn’t like their friends and family, the list can go on. The end result is that you did not commit.

The main reason love perishes away is the lack of sacrifice. I am not saying that you have to sacrifice time out with friends and family in order to have a good relationship. You have to let go of your pride and sacrifice the small things that you may think are paramount to your partner. Oftentimes, people are used to growing up and dealing with their own problems and issues, that to get someone else to track mud on the carpet can send us off the deep end. Be sure to sacrifice the life you had and build a new and stronger life together.

You can compromise in areas you feel to be of value, but the truth is that you are no longer a solo player. It is all co-op from here. The small sacrifices you make will be paid back if you have someone who feels the same way. You cannot be selfish in a relationship. When you start to make it all about “me, me, me,” then you miss the true part of love. That part is giving unto another and making sure to be the best person you can be so, in turn, they can become the best version of themselves too. I believe love for individuals has the ability to change and evolve. Love just does not dissolve like cotton candy when introduced to water. The sugar is still there. The thing that made love taste so good from the start. It had us addicted for more until we got used to it, and it became normal in our life.

The fact that love can disappear should not be anything to be afraid of. You have to make sure you make things work in your head. There is a map to love though it is hard to find. We mistake fools’ gold for our treasure when instead we should have kept looking for the real deal. That real deal is more valuable than any temporary pleasure. Regardless if you are or aren’t the perfect match, love requires work. Just like the garden we keep. It can be filled with beautiful flowers or the husks of what was once a lush flower bed.

There will be days that you just do not feel like loving, and that is fine. On those days, you have to lean on and into your partner for care and understanding. Our cups can run dry quickly if we are not doing what we must do in order to refill them. Being honest with yourself and your loved ones will make remaining full and able to give easier. Just because it is easier doesn’t make it less tough. It will be a challenge nonetheless, so we have to work on making sure we stay in that love.

In order to stay in that love, you have to make sure that you want to be there. Wanting to be in a place will not only make you feel good but them as well. They will see your effort and reciprocate what you give off. The energy between people who love each other is about caring and betterment. You want to make sure that the person you love is better the next day. No matter what position you are in, you can help someone be better. This can be by their career, relationships, and lifestyle. If you ever feel like you are having a hard time and are not good enough, then a true friend, family member, or loved one that cares and is an ember in your life will always make sure that you shine bright.

Shining bright does not burn you or them out any quicker. Shining brighter lets the world recognize what is possible in love. Wonders love wants to grow like a Texas bluebonnet in all the fields. It spreads so quickly and is a symbol of something more than just growth or change in season. It is a tradition that is not to be infringed on. People do not cut, trample, or misuse this flower. They admire it while the season lasts. Though the flower goes away when summer hits, the memories don’t. Next year’s traditions remain the same. Love should be like a Texas bluebonnet, a symbol of something more.

In conclusion, love can be whatever you make it. It can be a blessing, a curse, or a way of life. To stay in love is to be more than remaining faithful and do things together. Love runs deep like the roots of a tree or plant. The roots create a foundation where growth is something that is not a maybe. Deep roots are a symbol of strength and longevity. It is the foundation work that we do in our relationships that makes them thrive. The great thing about love is how it becomes new and rekindled. Just like age can make wine, whiskey, and cheese morph into complex flavors, so can our love evolve to sweeter and more savory notes. Remember to love yourself first, and when you do that, you will see how your love will never leave you and the people you hold dear.

Until then,

Michael Rearden

Founder of Reven Concepts