The “If Only” Mindset has permeated our society over the generations and is now becoming an issue that must be addressed. It is more prevalent now than it was years ago, but it needs to be addressed. When someone starts to or operates under this mindset, they forfeit all power and ability to make a change in their life. This is done because the choice is given away to someone hoping they would remedy the situation. However, there is no guarantee the other party will do what you need to resume your life. In this week’s blog, I will be talking about this mindset and how you can switch it around when it enters your mind.

Having an if-only mindset is not the end of the world, but it is the start. This mindset is similar to the contingent mind & the complacent mind but is more of a hybrid between the two perspectives. When you begin to operate under an if-only mindset, you are giving your power away. You are telling your brain that it is not responsible for making things possible, and it is someone else’s fault. When this action takes place, the brain is learning a habit of not making things happen. That is when complacency and victim-ism take over.

When someone thinks they are a victim, it creates another form of the if-only mindset. A person who labels themselves as a victim is telling their mind that what happened to them was not their fault and someone else is to blame. In our society, we can say we are victims without receiving this mindset, but the majority of people who use the term “victim” blame others for the current state of their lives. That is why it is essential not to let this mindset take over your life. Having an if-only attitude will make you less likely to produce lasting results in your life.

Instead of having this type of mindset, you should want to focus on what you can do. No matter what situation you are in or what problems you have in your life, there is a solution. People fail to see these solutions when they say they cannot be done or give their power away. That is why it is vital to develop a mindset primed to focus on the problem and find a solution. Our society has become accustomed to putting off or giving up when things do not go our way. We have developed phrases that soften the blow of our defeat in words of passiveness and inability. At some point, we have to retake control of our life and determine the outcome we want for ourselves.

To get rid of a mindset that doesn’t serve you, you must create a new perspective that will help you. It is not something that is changed because it requires a massive amount of time and effort to alter pre-existing beliefs. However, the first step is to find out different mindsets to start to strengthen. When you can enhance other perspectives, it gives your brain the option to choose a better stance. If the mind can focus on what it can accomplish rather than what it cannot accomplish, then we can start to make proper headway toward a better life. This includes not allowing ourselves to hold our wishes in place of our goals and our deficiencies in our responsibilities.

In closing, we want to make sure that we know the mindset we are allowing in our minds. We want to ensure that our minds are mentally fortified and ready for any challenge they may face. In our current world, there is a lot of uncertainty about the future of our country and livelihoods, but that does not create an opening for an excuse. This is the time we must start to focus more on what we can accomplish and what needs to be done in the world. It is easy to say that the world owes us something, but the truth is we are not owed a single thing. In life, we get what we deserve, not what we wish and pray for. Success can be yours through reasonable effort and the control of what you allow in your mind. If you can focus on the solution rather than the problem, you can change any mindset in moments. You are the person who determines your life’s outcome. Do not give that power away!

Until then,

Michael Rearden

Founder of Reven Concepts