Somehow our obligation to the power of commitment has waned in today’s age. A truth today will not hold up in court tomorrow may. What has changed from the traditional standards? We have forgotten the meaning of our words and what it means. Just Because the world is careening off a cliff doesn’t mean we have not to keep our word or commitments. In this blog today, we will look into the commitment and consistency of the past and how commitment and consistency are held today.

The first thing I think about when I hear commitment is your honor. I am thinking about the definition of honor from the 12th through the 14th century. The meaning for it meant having a structure of moral values, a fielty of loyalty and religion, and courtesy which is most related to chivalry. People back then would make sure their honor was something that stayed intact. It was precious to them, and they knew it would be difficult to regain once they lost it. These people made an effort each day to make the right moral choices, remain loyal to a cause, and be courteous to each other.

As we fast forward to today, most society considers commitment and consistency optional. The meaning of honor in the west is almost non-existent. There is no longer a mandatory way in which someone should uphold themselves. People wake up each day and have a life built on auto-pilot. Kids will go to school, come home, do homework, eat, play, and sleep to repeat the next day. Adults will wake up, go to work, come home, relax, eat, and sleep to repeat the same thing the next day. We are in a continual rat race, and each weekend is our escape from the mundane routine of the week. This structure for our days will put any new commitments that enter our lives to be placed on the back burner. I am not sure how commitments can be optional because the excuse many Westerners will use is that we do not have the time.

I can see where the power of commitment has started to wither. It began with life becoming so automatic and simplified that the spare time one might have in their day would just be squandered. Though most of the world operates on autopilot, many still fly manually. The great news is that everyone can regain control of their day and allow their commitments to mean something again. Love and life will grow stale without something new or a spark. To keep that fire lit, it is our job to make sure that the light stays bright through our commitment in relationships. We must commit to the longevity of our lives and relationships.

I grew up in a Catholic household, and marriage was one of those things you only got done once. Marriage definitely has its ups and downs and is not something I would recommend for an uncertain couple. It requires two individuals who will honor their commitment to being with each other for the rest of their life. I believe I told my fiance in some way that as long as we can make this work, then let’s fix it. We can pull through together no matter how bad things get or how dark the day is.

As I look at commitment as the sense of love and endearment in today’s generation, I see many people jumping ship. You can see it with the current dating trends we have today. You can swipe right or left and instantly match several people quickly with minimal effort. Dating and love have become so robotic and interpersonal that I can see why many commitments in relationships don’t stand the test of time. I have no issue with online dating. However, I do not think people should be more straightforward about what they want and what they are looking for. A broken heart in today’s age is all too common.

Not everyone is meant to be together, and that is why you date before things get serious. I think we forgot that small part about dating and not getting serious too quickly. I think it is crucial to learn quickly if you want to invest in someone, and that is why I created a three-date rule before I found my fiance. This allowed me to quickly determine if someone had the three main traits I was looking for in a person. Those three traits were their mindset, heart, and character.

Once you know that person is for you, you must form some commitment to that individual. If the person you have committed to has become toxic and no longer good for your well, they have a choice. They would want to seek change and switch their toxic mindset and evolve it into being an ember in their life. If they do not want to change, then they need to get out of your way so you can focus on someone who will commit to you fully.

When it comes to something broken, we easily throw it away. My parents had a broken relationship throughout their marriage, but they made it work. They made it work not only because of their children but because of their commitment to each other. Each day does not have to be the brightest. When they got married, people would talk about their love together. People would say no one could tear them apart with an almost envious tone because the love was so strong and true. I know deep down that even traversing their most challenging times, they knew it would all work out. Their commitment in relationships was built on a solid foundation, and their faith remained strong even though the house shook.

In the end, commitment is something you have to decide for yourself. It can be committing to love and being in a relationship, the commitment to yourself to be in shape, or to your job that you will get the job done to the best of your abilities. Nonetheless, commitments are something you should honor and not allow to fall through because you get tired or lose hope. I know some situations are past being helped because they stop growing when people become complacent and stubborn. If you are not growing, then you are dying. Let’s ensure that we keep them healthy and grow towards our most desired life in each of our commitments.

Until then,

Michael Rearden

Founder of Reven Concepts