Fighting negativity and insecurities can be a challenge. In this blog, I want to give you some tools and tips to overcome negativity and any insecurities you may have about yourself or in your life. We are all unique and our person, but that doesn’t mean the struggles we face will all be unique too. Whether it be ridicule, lack of confidence, or being taken advantage of, you are not the only one. There are countless issues and problems we have to face each day. The good news is that there is a solution.

The solution for overcoming challenges related to negativity and insecurities can be settled in three steps. The three steps are to understand that you are in charge, be true to yourself, and grow. I will go into detail and teach you how to use this three-step process to work out any issues you may be having. It will not be easy to go to this place in your mind if you have been hiding it away, but it is necessary if you want to throw out those negative thoughts and insecurities in your life. That dark corner might be filled to the ceiling with all the things you did not want to address, but you do not have to be afraid of it. The relief you will feel when that area of your life is cleansed will make you feel like a new person, starting your transformation.

Step one is to understand that you are in charge. This means that you are the one who is in control of all that is you (your thoughts, feelings, and actions). Knowing this fact alone gives you leverage on anything the world may say about you. Whether it be a person, magazine, or news segments that tell you otherwise, you can choose to let it get to you or let it go in one ear and out the other. Especially living in America, there is a huge stigma on how you should look, dress, eat, talk, etc. If you go against these norms, then you are ridiculed, and those negativities can take a toll on you if you let them.

The words of others are very powerful, just like yours are too. You can speak negatively about a person or situation and build up insecurities in many areas of your life. Maybe you weigh too much, don’t have long soft hair, or drive a beat-down car—the list can go on. We can all feel insecure about what we have in our lives. I wish I could say that it is easy to think of yourself as fortunate because there are people who have less and wish they had what you want, but that is not how the brain works.

We have a fragile mindset that we developed in our teen years. We needed to have peer recognition and fit in. Most students do not want to stand out, but that isn’t the case for some. Some people were bullied and constantly ridiculed. These people are not only insecure now but are allowing those negative thoughts to get into their minds. They don’t want to eat, work, work out, sleep, etc. The world is filled with people who will not worry about your feelings, so that means you have to make sure that you take care of yourself.

For step one, you have to make sure that no matter what anyone says, you understand you are in charge. People can say or do bad things to you, but it is you who will decide how to deal with the situation. Do you act, or do you react? I wish I could say that we all take the proper action, but our reactions can happen so quickly that we let that negativity grab ahold of us, and once it does, it is hard for it to let go. The good news is that you can let it go quickly. Anger and sadness are major emotions, but you have to make sure not to let those emotions be constant in your life. These two emotions are very powerful and have a purpose, but they can develop blocks in your brain if not dealt with correctly. You are in charge of how you feel. No one can change that, however hard it may be not to let it affect you. You have to remain on top and in charge of yourself. Staying in charge through the bad and rough times will help you rebound quickly and live a more wholesome life void of the troubles caused by the world and others.

Step two is to be true to yourself. You have to make sure that you are doing what is best for you. If you feel that you are being taken advantage of or if you are not being treated correctly, then be true to those feelings. Do not let someone bully you, cheat on you, lie to you, or treat you unfairly. Though some situations will require a bit more finesse, you can come out on top as long as you are true to who you are and who you want to be. In certain situations, you might have to fight your way out, whether physically or mentally. Remember, you are the maker of your destiny, so do not let anyone get in the way of that.

The true you will always shine when front and center. This is because when you are true to yourself, you can manifest great passion and energy. This will allow you to reach goals and remain on the path to the best version of yourself. For example, if you are not happy with a job, then quit. The job might give you money and security, but what do you lose? You may be overworked, not valued, and disrespected, but your sanity and purpose should come first. You never want to lose your purpose in life. If you do, then you are losing that fire that can warm the souls of everyone around you. Being true to yourself will benefit not only you in the end but also those you choose to keep in your life.

Step three is to grow. You want to make sure that you are growing into the person you wish to become. Holding on or allowing negativities and insecurities to take control of your life stunts your growth. You should be able to grow each day and make strides to reach your goals in life each day. Having a bad day or moment has the power to stop us from growing, but I want you to remember that you are in charge. You can grow into the person you were destined to be.

The person you were meant to be will come about through your constant growth. No matter what bad news or hardships you face in life, nothing can stop you from growing. The negativities and insecurities that were placed in your mind have no place in your life. Throw them out! Knowing and understanding that you are in charge and being true to yourself will allow for continual growth. You will no longer need to seek validation, and no one can do wrong to you. You are the complete package, and you do not need anyone else’s validation but your own.

I talk about filling your cup up first often, and this growth is a part of what is in your cup. Life can be rough at times, and our cup may get cracks or holes in it. This stops our cup from being full. The negativities and insecurities that we allow to reside in our brains hinder our cup from becoming overflowing. Be sure that when you are focusing on your growth, you are not losing progress due to these cracks/holes. Sometimes you have to take some time out for yourself to repair the mishaps that can happen in life. Remember, those mishaps are meant to be temporary. Not something that should be left unchecked in your life.

I know that it is easy to talk about this stuff, but doing it is a challenge. It hurts, it sucks, and it doesn’t feel good, but in the end, it will make you stronger. I do not know how you are truly feeling. No one on this earth will ever know what you are truly feeling. We might have a very good guess, but we have not walked in your shoes and had your life experiences. The traumas and problems you had to deal with, I might not have had in my life. However, I know for a fact you can get through this.

How do I know? I know because I have faith in you. I have faith that you can overcome any obstacles with time, patience, and caring. If no one is in your corner with you, then I will be the one cheering you on. I want to be the first person to congratulate you on the amazing job you have done up until now and also after the fact. Things that happen in our lives happen for a specific reason. All the rough times contributed to my growth because those times allowed me to elevate. These negativities and insecurities are brief and temporary and should not be made permanent in your life.

Life doesn’t wait for anyone. It will happen whether you like it or not. These steps are helpful when life decides to happen to you. I want to make sure that you are not just standing there taking the hits. You are not a punching bag, so fight back. Aim high reach your goals, and let life learn that it cannot mess with you. No matter how many times it tries to knock you over, you won’t budge. You are sturdy, you are fine, and there is nothing that cannot be accomplished with time. Take back the power you gave away and rule over your life how it was always meant to be. You are in charge, and no negativity or insecurity is enough to stop you.

Until then,

Michael Rearden

Founder of Reven Concepts