The state of serenity is our natural point of being. Our bodies favor a specific emotional level, as usual. This balance is not happiness; it is not sadness; it is serenity. For example, think of a rubber band; if you stretch it. It is happiness because you have more, according to the brain. But you have sadness if you take that same rubber band and scrunch it up. There is a place that the rubberband like to be. It is its resting point, and we all have one. We also must be aware that the rubberbands for people will range in size. You could have a short rubber band, a long thick rubber band, or any combo/variation in between. Today, we will examine serenity and what it means for you.

Serenity is the state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled. When we begin to take apart this definition, the root outcome leads to peace. Well, what is peace? Serenity will be in a state of mind where negativity/happiness is not prevalent. Having peace does not mean being perfect. Having a perfect life and a peaceful life is two different things. Though having an ideal life will require you to have peace too. With peace, you can apply the understanding that everything is not perfect yet calm, and maybe even some semblance of happiness will be present. All of these will be factors to what serenity is and then looking at it in both the higher and lesser version of itself.

If you can imagine serenity being a diagram, serenity would be right in the middle. To simplify today’s blog, we will only go two levels above and two below about what serenity is and how to get there. Of course, other emotions can go above or below serenity, so you must use your best judgment to determine where they should be placed on the scale. You can go to my website and sign up for coaching, and we will go through that process together. Below you will find the order in which we will speak about serenity.

As you can see in the order above, serenity is right in the middle. You will also notice how we are missing many other prominent mental states of the mind, like anxiety, ambition, anger, forgiveness, etc. However, all our emotions are needed and should be understood and felt. We do not need all of our feelings to understand the state of serenity and the meaning behind it. What serenity tends to be for most people is our natural point of return. That natural point is where we feel just OK. There is nothing special going on, and we are comfortable. This is not the same as complacency because complacency is a choice in mind rather than serenity, a balance of natural patterns.

If you can imagine a glass of water on the table, you will better understand the next point I want to make. As that glass sits on the table, you will notice that the water is calm and at a point with no motion. That point is considered your relaxed emotional state of being, serenity. If you pick up the glass and start to sway it from side to side, you will notice how one side tipped high and one tipped low. In a sense, the high points the water reaches would be considered Joy on the spectrum of serenity. You will find happiness between the high and the middle points. Looking at the lowest point of the glass, we will be met with depression. In between depression and serenity is sadness. You might still be a bit confused at this point, even after all the examples, so I also want to give you a real-life scenario.

There is a difference in how the brain is wired between men and women. Men would love nothing more than to stay in the space of serenity, while women would love nothing more than to stay in the state of joy. Does that mean men are simple creatures and women tend to live on the premise of the best and higher standards? Maybe. What I can tell you is the extremes are different between the two. Happiness and sadness will be unique to the person, but if we look at what it does to a woman’s mind, we will have more volatile shifts in their state of mood, which doesn’t make it a bad thing.

We understand that women tend to be more in touch with their emotions through instinct and evolution. If they didn’t have this ability, then it would be difficult to bear and give birth to a child into existence. A man might want a child and love them dearly, but it is a different type of love. There is a reason why the court system favors leaving a child with the mother rather than giving the child to the father. The same is valid for why many men leave a household they had children with and are not there to raise the child. Yes, this is not the case for every man. We live in modern times, so that is on the decline, but all it would take for that to shift back to the instinct would be trauma.

Understanding what serenity is would solve many of the problems we face today. Many people are in pursuit of happiness, and they will do anything to get there. They would even blindly follow a dream or plan laid out by a society that doesn’t reflect their purpose, passion, or ambitions in life. The system is skewed to make us believe serenity is one point, but in reality, it will be different for everyone to a degree. Most people want enough money to live and enjoy life’s simple pleasures, while some want to live in abundance. The separation between the two is mindset and determination.

If you are a person who will go after something until you get it, you will be in the upper grouping of serenity. Though this doesn’t guarantee success, it will be a factor in why you can become successful. If you are in the lower levels of serenity, there is a greater likelihood that you will have less meaningful actions towards your goals and betterment. This is because the brain treats negativity like an anchor. We love to have it, but when we are trying to sail, all it does is slow us down. The good news is that you can create that balance of serenity today!

To create serenity in your life, you must go on a personal development journey. That journey can be solo or with a coach, but the result is a shift in your mindset, leading to a change in your serenity. My experience with this was in 2016 when I had a trauma in my life that pushed me to change and grow. The process was simple, but it was difficult. I had to fight the natural tendencies/habits I created and replace them with ones more in line with higher levels of serenity. If you do not have trauma to push you, you are better off having a coach or an accountability partner. If you cannot get them, the best way is to Habit Stack. 

Habit stacking involves starting to build a habit in small incremental steps. For example, if you want to get in better shape. Start by walking for one minute a day, three times a week. We all have three minutes a week to do a purposeful walk. You can even bring your phone and watch a TikTok during that minute walk. Eventually, you will take away distractions and increase the time limit. After that, you will find yourself in the gym and not miss a day. This process can take longer, but it is a surefire way to change into what you want to become.

I speak about serenity as it is something that should come easy, and everyone should find their place and live there so that we can be happy. Well, serenity is not happiness. It is a neutral state the body will favor and return to, no matter the situation. All levels of high will end, but not all levels of sadness will. This is due to the natural state of our mind being hardwired to see negatively. I heard an excellent example the other day, and it was talking about how we would drive 80mph past a beautiful sunset, but we will slow down and rubber-neck a car accident on the highway. The brain is a powerful thing.

Knowing that the brain is a powerful thing we have, we must take time to learn how to control it. That also means we learn how to regulate ourselves and also learn how to change our emotional state when needed. You might be in a state of depression right now, and it doesn’t feel good. However, that state of being is an emotion that should be felt and inspected. After you think about it, you should realize that it is not the best state for your mindset, so you should seek to change it. Getting back to a state of serenity(standard) or seeking a higher level is up to you. What you should aim at creating is a higher level of serenity that is in between peace and happiness. That will be the most normal for our current state of mind. 

In closing, understanding serenity will help you find your balance in life. That balance will be the key to helping you unlock your full potential and overcome any challenge you may encounter. Do not be a stranger if you have difficulty reaching or staying in serenity. Sign up for a FREE Consultation, and start taking steps to get your life to where you want to be. You deserve to live a life of peace and much more. Will will begin with your mindset, and then everything else will follow. Serenity awaits you, do not keep it waiting. 

 

Until then,

Michael Rearden

Founder of Reven Concepts